Why Your "Mindset" is a Big Fat Fraud
There’s something I notice all the time... and I see it with my own clients, and honestly I've felt it myself.
Its that state where you know every single step you're supposed to take. You've talked to the right people, mapped it all out, you have the information. And then something happens when you actually go to do it.
You sit down to play Monopoly with your kid and you can't be present for more than five minutes.
You stand at the podium and youfreeze.
You reach for the phone to ask for that raise and something stops you before you even dial.
It's not that you don't know what to do. It's that there's a state living in you that hasn't gotten the news yet.
If there's an emotional state engraved in your nervous system... a part operating out of fear, or out of the worry of being rejected or abandoned... you won't have the container to take the action, even when you know exactly what the action is. Your creative mind dries out.
The knowing just sits there, unused. Like a skill set locked behind a door you haven't found the key to yet.
What I've come to understand after years of this work... and I mean really understand, not just cognitively agree with... is that we don't need more information.
We need to actually create the conditions where a different life becomes something we can tolerate receiving.
Warmly,
Esther