I reached millions—and still got ghosted.

This year, my work reached 3.7 million people.
And two people I cared about ghosted me.

--> Same year.
--> Same heart.
Both true.

I get endless messages daily, thanking me for my work.
Both, people I work with, and those who stumble upon my work.
But that doesn't protect me from being a fellow human. 

That’s the reality of doing deep work and choosing open-hearted connection:
we’re met with both warmth and silence.
Both connection and avoidance. 

In our trauma training group this week, a therapist shared:
"I’m focusing on reciprocity—in work, relationships, and life."

That really landed.
Because when we show up with presence and honesty,
we start to receive clearer yeses and clearer nos.

--> Those aren’t rejections.
They’re information.
They’re guideposts.

And here’s what I want to say:
Go where it’s warm.

When we go where it’s warm,
--> our nervous systems settle,
--> we feel safer being who we are,
--> and we grow lives rooted in wholeness and courage.

As Brené Brown reminds us:
"True belonging doesn’t require us to change who we are;
it requires us to be who we are."

When we belong to ourselves,
we recognize what connection should feel like.
And we choose better.

Because connection begins with us—
and from there, the right people and places rise to meet us.

Here’s something to reflect on:
Who are the people or places that feel warm to you?
Where could you go more often?
What in this message speaks to you today?

Thanks for being here, for doing the work,
and for choosing courage, again and again.

Growth isn’t a one time job...
It’s something we keep showing up for.
And it’s worth everything.

Warmly,
Esther

P.S. Tell me where you find warmth. I'd love to hear!